You know what the definition of insanity is?
“Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
The same applies to sex, folks.
If you’ve recently run into a rut in the bedroom, worry not. The flames are but dim, a branch from the tree of knowledge should do the trick to rekindle the relationship.
(Yes, from here on out corny jokes are fair play. Sue me.)
Let’s check out our top 8 interesting ways to spice up your sex life.
Great Ways to Spice Up Your Sex Life. Hard.
There’s no rulebook on sex. But there are guidelines.
The most important one to follow is that sex is best with clear, direct, open, and honest exploration and communication with one another. You have to establish and maintain trust, in whatever capacity and understanding that means to you both. And it will be different for every person, every relationship.
Speak, text, tap it out in Morse code on each other’s thighs if you so desire — whatever form of communication works for y’all.
Like a seed needs nourishment to grow, you both have to put forth the commitment to explore with one another the full spectrum that is, or can be, sex. It’s a game of give-and-take from here on out.
Or, to put it in a different perspective, take and be taken.
Let’s take a look.
Turn Back Time
Ever hear of the saying, “slow and steady wins the race?”
Let’s focus on the first three words… winning and racing have nothing to do with sex. But slowing down the pace and taking your time to enjoy each other’s company and presence does.
How well do you know your partner — every nook and cranny?
Tell me, how many freckles are on his back? Which of her toes is the longest? What part of their body do they most like licked?
Share every moment with one another like it’s your first, current, and last. Explore fully, curiously with one another, over every inch.
Let’s be clear: there are several erroneous spots on the human body, some specific to different sexes.
On many women, this is located within the vagina. On men, inside the anus. Both can be stimulated with a “come hither” motion of the index finger while inserted, gently rubbing and pressing against it.
While many women become familiar with their g-spot and some men become familiar with women’s g-spots, few ever explore the realms of the men’s g-spot.
Change that. Start with an enema, add a little lube, and then X that spot!
Another erogenous zone that can always use some more love in the bedroom: nipples.
Like other sexually-involved organs, they become engorged and erect when stimulated. For some, the sensations involved with the nipples can be so intense that orgasm can be achieved from nipple play alone.
Kiss them, rub them, twist them, turn them, blow cooling air on them. See what turns your partner’s nipples on so they can get off.
To learn more about nipple orgasm, read more here.
The Wand Chooses the Wizard
Even wizards need a wand to make their magic!
Toys are a tried-and-true bedroom accessory to spice up your sex life. And there’s a whole gamut of adult novelties for you and your partner to try out.
Dildos are a classic. But there are also vibrators, electric stimulators, fleshlights — whatever suits your fancy.
Try out some toys to enhance your sexual repertoire.
Heard It through the Grapevine
Let’s take a moment to talk about aural sex.
Not to be confused with oral — pertaining to the mouth. Aural has to do with the ear, with hearing.
There’s nothing quite so satisfying than to hear the oral response of your partner’s moans while making love. It’s real, it’s raw, it’s guttural.
So we want you, next time, to turn that oral response into a complete, aural sensation experience.
Plant your mouth against their ears, and as each caress, each kiss, each squeeze turns you on — let them hear it. Moan right into their ear so no sound fills their membranes but that of the sound of your sexual gratification.
Let them really know how they make you feel.
Ice, Ice Baby
This one’s about taking a simple, DIY approach to sex.
Ice cubes are great, tactile sensory tools for sex. Chilling and thrilling.
Sweet syrups like honey and chocolate sauce can make oral pleasure all the more fun. Best stay safe and keep it on the surface of the skin, however.
Feathers, combs, and brushes can all do wonders to a person when slowly drawn across their skin. Sends tingles up the spine.
Find a way to incorporate household objects into your sex life. It keeps you on your toes and thinking spontaneously on ways to surprise your partner during sex.
They See Me Rollin’
Time to hop in the car and go for a drive.
And then pull over somewhere because operating heavy machinery while under the intense effects of endorphins is dangerous.
But public sex is great! Well, you know… when you’re not harming anyone or anything. Do it responsibly and with some sensibility, please.
Point being, don’t feel like you’re locked into the bedroom. Do it as they do on the Discovery Channel.
How Do You Take Your Coffee?
There’s way more to sex than we could ever share.
But there are plenty of resources to help you and your partner explore more! When you’re both feeling adventurous and comfortable with one another, look up a test service like this to discover some of your more taboo desires.
Compare and contrast your results, and see what middle ground you can share for some sexy fun!
Please Play Carefully!
Be communicating. Be upfront about your sexual safety practices. Be honest about your desires. Be open to your partner’s.
Relish the unexpected pleasures you both discover.
Comment below with any tips you have on ways to spice up your sex life!